A Voice in the
June 22, 2003
Shocked at Vulgarity in "Christian" mailing
As for being "vulgar", let's take a look at a couple places in Scripture, shall we. 'See how much we are able to come away "liking" what we see. When John saw the religious elite, the hypocrites, coming for immersion, he calls out, "Offspring of vipers! Who warned you to flee from the wrath to come?" (Mt3:7) Jesus condemns, Serpents! Offspring of vipers! How will you escape the condemnation of hell?" (Mt23:33) Peter calls them dogs and pigs. (2Pt2:22)
You say that's not "vulgar" because they are just 'animals'? How about this...
"How shall I pardon you for this? Your children have forsaken Me, and have sworn by those that are not gods. When I adjured them, then they committed adultery, and gathered themselves by troops in a harlot’s house. They were like lusty, well-fed stallions in the morning; every one neighing after his neighbor’s wife. Shall I not punish for these things? says Jehovah. And shall not My soul be avenged on such a nation as this?" (Jer5:7-9)
Is this not a picture of today's society? From daily commercials to Hollywood... pretty much 'everything' has a sexual undercurrent, either discretely or overtly. There is no shame! No "fear of God before their eyes". (Rom3:18) I happened upon a couple minutes of a "Meet my Folks" episode the other evening, where five fellows were competing for the one daughter, having their past dirty deeds and 'conquests' exposed to the girl's 'disgusted' parents...and even though seeing the father's disgust, essentially high-fiving each other and laughing about their prior escapades. And the prevailing attitude to women, and the expectation of them is, "shake it baby!" Well, what is the outcome of "shake-it-baby!"? Babies!
You say this kind of talk is offensive? Well then, how about something more from Scripture...
God colorfully illustrates Israel's judgment: "Therefore I also have drawn up your skirts over your face, that your shame may be seen." (Jer13:26)
This ministry does not exist to make people "feel good". It is not the purpose of these mailings to necessarily have you coming to the end of a writing, -feeling- "blessed". In fact, sometimes I'm required to get 'vulgar' and in-your-face (like I'm doing right now). Perhaps, for some of you, if you squirm enough, maybe you'll get off your bee-hinds and onto your knees before God, facing His Truth! (Yes, I know for many of you, this is preaching to the choir. But there's lots of you for whom this is aimed square between your eyes.)
Many so-called "christians" are behaving -just- like the world. They do like the world, going around in dog-packs. The females make themselves alluring, and the males go lustily panting after them, sniffing at the bitches. And you who know anything about dogs, when a bitch is left to the pack, and gives birth to a litter, there can often be as many -different- 'breeds' (of the different fathers) to those pups, as the number of pups that were born...indicating that at least that many 'different' dogs had their time with her. (Just like those on the Maury Povich show) Now, you can pretend to be a 'delicate' (innocent?) 'poodle', all dolled up with the little foofoo fur puffs, and pretty pink ribbons...but if you are behaving like a "dog" in the pack, well, the female dog is called a "bitch". And indeed, the dictionary also has what it calls the "offensive" definitions. Perhaps those terms came to be used in slang for humans and their offspring, because humans spend their time behaving like dogs??
Yes, I know this is getting 'offensive'!
But it -IS- OFFENSIVE! IT -IS-AN-OFFENSE -to- the Most High!
'That' all this perversity is going on!
Perhaps this kind of talk is an offense to you delicate little foofoo 'poodles'. But as you are sighing and fainting in pseudo-shock, consider that God's anger and wrath is at the "boiling" point for all man's perversities. Notice the specific sins that are listed for God's judgment: Regarding the new heavens and earth, "But outside are DOGS and sorcerers and prostitutes and murderers and idolaters, and whoever loves and produces a lie." (Rev22:15) And further... "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be led astray. Neither prostitutes, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor sodomites...will inherit the kingdom of God." (~1Cor6:9-10) "Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, sexual perversion, uncleanness, licentiousness..." (Ga5:19)
The Christian life is not about sitting around, hearing "pleasant things" (1Ki22:13) spoken by people with a "pleasant voice". (Ezek33:32) In fact, the desire for that is one of the very characteristics of the days in which we live, by those who don't want "sound doctrine" and "truth" but lust to "hear pleasant things". (2Tim4:1-4) The Christian life is not about sitting around on Sunday and Wednesday, being "blessed", getting batteries all "charged up" and feeling all "warm-n-fuzzy" all over; but of taking the Word that is heard and being "doers of the Word". (Jac1:22) "Doing the will of God from the heart". (Eph6:6) Living "pure" lives (1Jn3:3) in "holiness".
"...but as He who called you is holy, you also become holy in all conduct, because it is written, Be holy, because I am holy. And if you call on the Father, who without partiality judges according to each one’s work, behave yourselves throughout the time of your sojourning in fear..." (1Pt1:15-17)
Remember, Christians are 'in' the world, but NOT 'of' it. "Therefore, Come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, and I will receive you." (2Cor6:17)
"And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them." (Eph5:11)
If that is vulgar and offensive...well...so be it! I was called to proclaim "thus says Jehovah", often to a "rebellious house"..."whether they hear or whether they forbear". (Ezek2:3-5) And God's message to people is often after the manner of their own habits....
"With the merciful You will show Yourself merciful; with a perfect man You will show Yourself perfect; with the pure You will show Yourself pure; and WITH THE CROOKED YOU WILL SHOW YOURSELF TWISTED." (Ps18:25-26)
Sex Lives? (Noun: plural of "life")
Beyond these things, I don't know that it would even be proper for me to address this subject publicly. Is that not something that is between a man and his wife, as they 'discover' each other? Scripture says that the two "become one flesh" as they "cleave" to each other. (Gen2:24) Is not the "sex life" something that is totally, independently 'unique' to each couple.
Society today is so sexed-up that it has no idea the beauty God created to be enjoyed between a man and his woman. They are more into "competition" to see who can outdo each other; they compare notes, they brag of their prowess, and measure things. For society to even suggest that these are things to be on open public forums is despicable. What one couple does is not for anybody else. It's like the old expression, "A gentleman does not kiss-and-tell". Trouble is, our modern society seems to have run out of gentlemen...all that's left is packs of dogs.
Whatever (whatever) a couple does in God's sight, that is -their- "oneness". God created them. It is -their- intimacy, and nobody else's. Period.
My personal opinion? I even think the ancient Jewish custom of the "week" where the 'consummation' is announced to everybody, "Yea! They 'did' it!" and the parents kept that 'cloth' is disgusting and wrong. If they have "left" father and mother to become "one", whatever happens from thereon out is nobody else's business but theirs and God's. God brought Eve -to- Adam...nobody else. She was created JUST FOR HIM. They did not have parents and relatives to give their "report" to.
And then, there's another complete topic that could be addressed: where babies are delivered in hospitals, with 'male' doctors, that are 'strangers' and not the 'husband'. Wrong, wrong, wrong!
Don't get me going...!
The thought that was brought up, that in many cultures a man would have his "heirs" with his 'respectable' wives, and have his "fun" with the concubines. That for some reason, it was considered "wrong" to have 'fun' and still be righteous.
For everything 'serious' the Q/A addressed, for married folk don't forget those other Scriptures that are just for you. There is, of course, "Song-of-Solomon", in all its detail. There is the exhortation regarding the "wife of one's youth". (Pr5:19) Notice the exhortation is to be "satisfied" with her, and "always BE INTOXICATED ("ravished") in her love". Think about what those words mean, and that's what God designed and intended. And Paul exhorts to give the "affection due" each other, and to "not deprive" each other. (1cor7:3,5)
God's intent is for married couples to be together, -remain- together, and to 'enjoy' each other. I know, the world has sooo-corrupted what God made in such beauty, that when we proclaim -against- the perversity, it probably makes legitimately married couples feel like 'gasping' and catching their breath with possible feelings of 'guilt'.
It is a beautiful thing, proper and righteous, when it is between a man and his wife. It is just that mankind has corrupted it. Just like the "days of Noah" (Mt24:37) where "all flesh had corrupted their way upon the earth". (Gen6:12) And that's why God's judgment is imminent for this world, again.
But married folks... enjoy each other! It is God's gift to you.
Birth Control Pills
But, to refresh my memory just now I looked this up in Encyclopaedia Britannica 2002. The "pill" works on the basis of a balance of manufactured hormones estrogen and progesterone, the hormones that naturally/normally control a woman's monthy cycle and pregnancy, etc. Apparently there are different 'mixes' that can be prescribed. In some mixes the eggs are prevented from being released from the ovaries. Others cause changes in the mucus to keep the sperm from getting where they want to go. In both of these cases, the egg is not fertilized; thus, there is no "baby". If this information is correct, then by definition, this method is not "abortive" (murder).
But it is the "morning-after" pill that is abortive...using different hormone levels to knock the freshly-fertilized egg off the uterine wall, or keeping it from attaching...to be flushed out.
Typically...a person who has been on the pill is supposed to be able to get pregnant after going off it. But there is something that I don't know if doctors say, which I've seen first-hand...that pills can permanently alter the woman's hormonal/chemical make-up. If the person originally had a stable cycle experience, the pill can wreak havoc with things like mood-swings. And the condition can be such that it never reverts to the 'original' state even after going 'off' the pill, even for many years. The pill can permanently mess it up. I don't know if the condition becomes 'fixed' once the woman becomes pregnant and gives birth? Not to mention, there's lots of theories about decreased/increased chances of certain types of cancer, and whatnot. Thus: all these so-called "benefits" man has devised, also have their down-sides.
But "the pill" as a CONTRA-ceptive is not supposed to be abortive; it is designed to 'prevent' fertilization. But the so-called "morning-after" pill is.
AND THEN, THERE IS PROBABLY THE FOLLOW-UP QUESTION:
Even if contraception is not abortive, isn't 'any' kind of birth-control "sin"? Didn't God say to "be fruitful and multiply"? (Gen1:28) Isn't the one with his "quiver full" called "blessed"? (Ps127:4-5) Isn't the lack of children a sign of God's "curse", and/or withheld blessing? Isn't a couple's 'choice' to -not- have children a disobedience and rebellion against God?
Please notice that Gen1:28 also says to "fill the earth and subdue it". Could it not be said today that the earth is "full"? Also please notice that Jesus provides for the 'rightness' for -some- to be emasculated (certainly the most effective, non-abortive and permanent form of contraception!). (Mt19:11-12) For some "it has been given" for this to be the case. And Paul speaks of the "gift from God" (1Cor7:7) regarding these things. So, again... taking from the preceeding question: are not these decisions something that is between a husband and his wife?
And other people have NO BUSINESS (NONE!) 'hounding' them as to 'when' they are going to "start-a-family"; and if they don't have children, wondering Whyyyy? (As though: something was "wrong" with them!) It is none of their business! And if you are meeting a couple for the first time, and wonder (out of genuine interest) if they have children, don't ask: "Do you have a 'family'?" If it's just the two of them, they -ARE- their "family"; and they may happen to be 'happy' in that state. Don't 'insult/offend' them by subliminally suggesting that they are, somehow, 'incomplete'. So, let your "yes be yes, and your no, no" (Jac5:12), and if you want to know if they have children, ask if they "have children". Hear their answer. And then, leave it at that. Period. Don't make their answer the determining data regarding how (or 'if') you are going to be friendly to them.
This last point is being stressed, because (I don't know why) it seems like "christians" are the absolute -worst- in this matter of people's attitudes about OTHERS having "children". I could tell you stories..!! Even about pastors!! Suffice it to say, some do make this subject a criterion for fellowship... depending upon how the visitors/strangers answer their 'interrogations'. So, if you want to make a new couple feel 'welcome', be friendly, and otherwise people should shut-their-yaps regarding things that are none of their business. (said with 'luuuuv' in my heart, of course -smile-)
READER FOLLOW-UP COMMENTS:
HOWEVER, I learned that there is the very real possibility that sometimes the egg does get released and fertilized and THEN the pill works as an abortive agent by preventing inplanting in the uterus. It does this by sloughing off the tissue in the uterus like what happens at a woman's normal cycle and so the baby (zygote) goes down the toilet with it.
I am sure that ANY woman who is a Christian when armed with this info, no matter HOW REMOTE the possibility of this happening, would find another method.
There's -always- downsides when man starts 'tweaking' with the body's chemical balances, isn't there. God really -did- design a 'well-oiled-machine' didn't He. And to think that man still rebels against God by denying the "design", claiming it all came together so intricately perfectly by 'chance', through evolution! A couple weeks ago the public TV program NOVA had a look at the entire development from conception to birth, showing images of the little baby at the various stages. Any single one of those 'stages' being so intricately complex. It gives us clue as to the psalmist's wonderment...
"For You have possessed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks unto You, for I am awesomely and wonderfully made; marvelous are Your works, and my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from You when I was made in secret, and skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my embryo, and in Your book I was enrolled, and all my days had been preordained, when as yet there was nothing." (Ps139:13-16)