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November 4, 1997

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Q/A Topics: -Wives Toward their Husbands - Women in the Church
Women in the Church

Comment:
In todays society the lines of distinction have become so dim because of all the women libbers and the N.O.W. organization and so on. It is so sad that this question really even would come up. Even my daughter at 11 years old gets caught up in the "What about the girls?" thinking. I am always having to take her to the scripture and away from the world to find the answers. I am so free of having to worry over these kinds of things. My hubby is head over all! All responsibilities were given to him, if he wants me to help....fine, I am very able to do that. But we don't have to fight for who gets to do what and I am very blessed for that!!! God bless you!

Comment:
Your messages about women's roles both to their husbands and to the Church is a hard lesson, but one that is especially needed in this day. When I first read it, I wanted to complain and disagree with you, but the Holy Spirit tugged at my heart and I realized that you are correct. After all, it is more blessed in God's eyes if we suffer for righteousness, rather than getting praised for doing good. Thanks again.

Q.
This (Wives Toward their Husbands) is a good article, well written and very well supported by Scripture reference (as usual) But I have one query.

I know you were writing expressly to the wives and I have absolutely no trouble (now) with submitting to my husband although it has not always been easy.

However, you failed to point out a very important fact from Scripture. That being that while Paul instructs wives to be submitted to their husbands, he also commands men to "love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave His life for her." Eph 5:25 And further: "Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them Col 3:19

A.
Check out the October Article, "Husbands Toward their Wives." This November one is a "sequel" to that one. Did you not receive Oct? I believe you'll find what you're "missing" in that one. 'one reason I did "that" one before "this" one.(smile)

Also, let me make an observation on your quote from Col 3:19. The word from the Textus Receptus (KJV, NKJV, KJ21) is "bitter" ...not "harsh." I just checked and Living, RSV and NIV perversions use the word "harsh." For whatever reason, NASB retains "bitter." In the original the aspect of "harshness" is a tail-end definition in parentheses. The primary definitions are related to "bitterness" ..."bitter taste, angry, indignant, irritated, grieved." And this was covered in the October article.

Q.
Any husband who is observing these commands of Paul's will not have any trouble with his wife being unsubmissive. He will not be a harsh husband or get on a drunk or beat his wife.

A.
True. However, the basis for the wife's submission is not on whether or not the husband is being what he ought to be. She is called to be what God wants her to be, whether or not her husband is what he should be.

And, on the other hand...there are "some" wives, whose husbands are real "sweeties" and the wives are real "B-----'s" ...you know, the feminist agenda, etc. When I see such relationships I MARVEL at the husband's patience and tolerance.

Q.
Also, as a counsellor, though I don't sanction divorce nor advise people to separate. I would not be inclined to tell any person to stay with a relationship that is *obviously* threatening his/her life or the lives of children.

A.
That gets "tough" doesn't it, when children are involved. However, from what I am seeing on the news an awful lot; mothers, perhaps more than dads, are guilty more often of child abuse...especially in recent years. And, please do not misunderstand this comment. This is not to excuse the abusive fathers. Only, to not lay "all" the blame at the fathers'/husbands' feet...as though it were a "male" problem. It's a "two-way" street. It's a sinful "human" problem. We live in a sin-sick world, which only Christ can heal.

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