November 4, 1997
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Q/A Topics: -Wives Toward their Husbands - Women in the Church
Women in the Church
In todays society the lines of distinction have become so dim because
of all the women libbers and the N.O.W. organization and so on. It is
so sad that this question really even would come up. Even my daughter
at 11 years old gets caught up in the "What about the girls?"
thinking. I am always having to take her to the scripture and away
from the world to find the answers. I am so free of having to worry
over these kinds of things. My hubby is head over all! All
responsibilities were given to him, if he wants me to help....fine, I
am very able to do that. But we don't have to fight for who gets to do
what and I am very blessed for that!!! God bless you!
Your messages about women's roles both to their husbands and to the
Church is a hard lesson, but one that is especially needed in this day.
When I first read it, I wanted to complain and disagree with you, but
the Holy Spirit tugged at my heart and I realized that you are correct.
After all, it is more blessed in God's eyes if we suffer for
righteousness, rather than getting praised for doing good. Thanks
This (Wives Toward their Husbands) is a good article, well written and
very well supported by Scripture reference (as usual) But I have one
I know you were writing expressly to the wives and I have absolutely
no trouble (now) with submitting to my husband although it has not
always been easy.
However, you failed to point out a very important fact from
Scripture. That being that while Paul instructs wives to be submitted
to their husbands, he also commands men to "love your wives even as
Christ also loved the church and gave His life for her." Eph 5:25
And further: "Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them
Check out the October Article, "Husbands Toward their Wives." This
November one is a "sequel" to that one. Did you not receive Oct? I
believe you'll find what you're "missing" in that one. 'one reason I
did "that" one before "this" one.(smile)
Also, let me make an observation on your quote from Col 3:19. The word
from the Textus Receptus (KJV, NKJV, KJ21) is "bitter" ...not "harsh."
I just checked and Living, RSV and NIV perversions use the word
"harsh." For whatever reason, NASB retains "bitter." In the original
the aspect of "harshness" is a tail-end definition in parentheses. The
primary definitions are related to "bitterness" ..."bitter taste,
angry, indignant, irritated, grieved." And this was covered in the
Any husband who is observing these commands of Paul's will not have
any trouble with his wife being unsubmissive. He will not be a harsh
husband or get on a drunk or beat his wife.
True. However, the basis for the wife's submission is not on whether or
not the husband is being what he ought to be. She is called to be what
God wants her to be, whether or not her husband is what he should be.
And, on the other hand...there are "some" wives, whose husbands are
real "sweeties" and the wives are real "B-----'s" ...you know, the
feminist agenda, etc. When I see such relationships I MARVEL at the
husband's patience and tolerance.
Also, as a counsellor, though I don't sanction divorce nor advise
people to separate. I would not be inclined to tell any person to
stay with a relationship that is *obviously* threatening his/her life
or the lives of children.
That gets "tough" doesn't it, when children are involved. However, from
what I am seeing on the news an awful lot; mothers, perhaps more than
dads, are guilty more often of child abuse...especially in recent
years. And, please do not misunderstand this comment. This is not to
excuse the abusive fathers. Only, to not lay "all" the blame at the
fathers'/husbands' feet...as though it were a "male" problem. It's a
"two-way" street. It's a sinful "human" problem. We live in a sin-sick
world, which only Christ can heal.
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